In your life, you'll take note of many people. One whom you shared something special, one who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to. The one you're with currently... And the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person you were with which everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose. Ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. An equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are not good together; it's just that it's not right yet, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you will be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it will work because you're ready. It will work if it's the right time and you will make it work. So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. There's no telling when this day will come.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it's different.
What do you do if it's not yet too late? Simple... find him or her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one? Ask him or her out and say, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."
rained @ 6:54 PM
